While I’m away, readers give the advice.
My wife and I have strongly held political views, and many close family members and close friends do also. I don’t shy away from discussing it and very rarely does the discussion descend into angry exchanges. My own personal rules:
1. I state what I believe as a matter of conscience and try my best to allow that others have conscientious beliefs, too.
2. Never, never “name call.”
3. Always, always search for something we both agree on.
4. Try to get agreement that we both want what’s best for our country; we just disagree on how to get it.
These rules have served me well for years and I have many warm relationships with family and friends who believe the polar opposite of the things I believe. Hasn’t worked every time, but the exceptions are rare.
How about speaking honestly from the heart?: “It’s great that you care so much about what’s going on in this country, and that you are passionate about your beliefs. We see things differently, and our views are as important to us as yours…